How to Have A Mind-blowing One Night Stand
Alternatively: "How to create foundational chemistry and dynamic intimacy with someone you've just met."
Are you ready to dive into the thrilling world of one night stands? Bite-sized affairs? Illicit rendezvous? Afternoon delights? Buckle up, because we're about to take you on a roller coaster ride through the ins and outs (pun intended) of having a night that will leave you breathless – in all the right ways!
Going from perfect strangers to perfectly-entangled-in-these-hotel-sheets is phenomenal when it goes well. There's no promise for perfection, but going in with the right mindset is everything. Here's a primer - based on my own personal experiences - in setting yourself up to best set the steamy scene your heart (and loins) are yearning:
- Communicate with Optimism
First things first: let's talk about talking. You've just met this potential partner in pleasure, and it's essential to establish open lines of communication from the get-go. Share your desires, ask about theirs, and don't be shy – after all, fortune favors the bold! If you can talk openly about what turns you on (and off), there's no telling how explosive your encounter could become.
And yes, I do mean optimism! Assume the best. Assume the best intentions of your partner. Assume casual sex can be good, healthy, and holistic. Assume you will not be judged or hurt. Think about the best way things could go down and bring that disposition into your communication. Both you and your partner are people who want to feel really good right now - that's an excellent starting point.
2. Kindness is Key
There's no room for rudeness or arrogance in this steamy scenario. Treat your new friend with kindness and respect – it'll go a long way in creating an atmosphere of trust and intimacy that can lead to mind-bending pleasure. Remember, it takes two (or more) to tango!
This physically manifests as being conscientious. Phenomenal, spontaneous, adventurous sex isn't about mind reading (because let's be honest: that is impossible). It's conscientiousness. Getting really good at being aware and committed looks and feels like being a sexual savant though, which is awesome.
Start with the basics: Is your partner comfortable? How's the body language? (We'll discuss more of this down below). Can they tell you find them physically attractive? Are you vocalizing that? Is this position equally satisfying for both of you? Are your hands, fingers, mouth and other extremities providing pleasure (or are you merely grabbing at their body maximum stimulation for yourself, hmm?). You want them to let go and "get wild"...Great! Are you also being vulnerable?
You can lust for eons.
It's communication, comfort, and conscientiousness which will finally open doors.
3. Set boundaries like a pro
No great one night stand ever started with crossed wires and confusion over limits. Before getting down and dirty, make sure both parties are clear on each other's boundaries – this includes discussing safe words if things get intense! And remember: Consent is Sexy; Comfort is Even Sexier.
4. Master non-verbal cues
You might be surprised at how much information is exchanged without saying a word! Keep an eye out for body language cues from your partner – they might be signaling their desires or comfort levels without even realizing it. By staying attuned to their physical responses, you'll be able to navigate this passionate dance like Fred Astaire on fire.
Look out for things like pulling away, crossed legs, and definitely stop if your partner physical removes or adjusts your hands on their body. The Kama Sutra is a long text, there is always something else to try if your partner isn't loving the current love-making position.
These deliberate body cues are much better indicators than things like vaginal wetness, nipple firmness, or penile stiffness and erection - we don't always have control over those!
5. Keep it safe & sexy
Protection is paramount when engaging in any sexual encounter, especially with someone you've just met. Condoms are crucial - as are lube and water! There's nothing sexy (or safe) about dehydrated intercourse. Remember, alcohol and prescription medications can bring on sudden bouts of thirst which can get dizzying in the heat of the moment. Nothing wrong with taking a little break!
For your own intimate safety, never try to compete against your own body. Your body is your teammate here, and is ideally supposed to end up feeling pretty good. Never try to force an erection, a toy, or a climax.
It is never safe to restrict your breathing (airflow) or your partners breathing.
6. Leave them wanting more
Keep things light and breezy as you part ways; who knows, you might cross paths again someday for another rendezvous! But until then, cherish the memories of your mind-blowing one night stand.
And there you have it! Follow these steps, and get ready for a night that will leave both you and your partner breathless with satisfaction. So go forth, be bold, and most importantly – have fun!